I refused to give in to Blue Monday today.
The sky is blue, but that is all. The sun has been shining in through my office window and warming me up (along with the heater, I’m not mad).
I’m wearing my red cardigan and that always makes me feel more cheerful.
Our lovely neighbours have had a new fence put up and it looks brilliant. It’s making me want to get outside and start gardening again.
T is on a rest day after four lates and we’ve had a good catch up. Some of the stories he tells me make me really sad and sometimes I have to try and keep my face neutral while thinking “you dealt with that?!”.
A has had another good day. It is so nice to sit waiting for her to come out of school without the worry of what she has had to face. It’s been hard to shift that nagging feeling, that dread of hearing of some horrible comment or incident. But we’re getting there. The more good days she has the more that feeling will become less and less present.
My brother has been told that his genetic test has come back negative so no-one else in the family needs to be tested for now and this is really great, positive news. It’s been playing on all our minds since he got his diagnosis of Brugada syndrome last year. He’s had to go through so many tests and consultations and I’m very relieved that he’s got another puzzle piece fitted. It’s such a newly discovered syndrome that relatively little can be set in concrete but this is a great bit of news.
I’ve got my hearing test later today to see what’s what and a follow up next week with the consultant to see if anything can be done about the tinnitus. I’m doubtful but grateful that they are checking it out.
I’ve started Day 1 of the Phone Detox challenge. I’ve written down how many hours I spent on my phone last week, how many pickups I make on average each day and how many notifications I get. It made me feel ashamed and I am DETERMINED to do something about it. So, I’ve removed all the apps from my home screen and added a motivational screen saver. I’m using an old tablet of A’s to stream music so I can’t use the excuse of changing a track to have a sneaky peek at Twitter. I’ve had to leave notifications active as I don’t have a separate work phone. But I am NOT going to respond to messages immediately. I am NOT going to use any spare moment to look at social media. Instead I am going to get up from my desk and walk around, maybe even pop my head outside the patio doors.
I’ve made a pledge to only buy clothes if something I currently own wears out or if I really don’t have anything suitable for a certain occasion – there are no weddings in the offing for this year, that I know of – and I can’t think of any other occasion that I won’t be able to cater for, but I want to leave that little get-out clause in there just in case! And when I do need to replace something it will either be second hand or, if not available and I have to buy from new, it will be from a sustainable brand and preferably in a sale! (I have to exclude certain items from this, such as underwear and socks etc. I’m sure you understand why!).
I had a bit of a wardrobe overhaul last year (see A un-dedicated follower of fashion. I didn’t tell anyone, until now*, but I had an online Styling Analysis with a small company which showed me which colours suit my hair and skin-tone, what shape I am (an hourglass apparently, who knew?), what style of clothing best suits my shape and what footwear to wear to “balance me out”.
I didn’t need to buy much new stuff but I did get rid of (donated or sold) quite a few things that had never felt right or didn’t make me feel good. It seems there is some science to this thing and my clothes had been telling me that they weren’t right for me! I’ve always been an impulse or panic shopper – buying things because I thought they would do, rather than because I loved how they looked on me. I’ve never really paid too much attention to my clothing, other than seeing it as camouflage to cover parts of my body that I am not comfortable with.
I bought myself a new smart winter coat – my walking coat is bloody lovely but it won’t win me any style points and it’s too warm for wearing in the car or for anything other than walking – and for the first time ever it wasn’t in a sale or second hand. I also bought a few dresses (in a sale) as I had my “stop hiding my legs” epiphany. I’ve been gradually adding items to my wardrobe to fill the gaps that I had and I have started to get to grips with building outfits and knowing what looks right with what. I still live in jeans but skirts (and dresses) are making more regular appearances and I am starting to feel like I am getting to know my style. It makes me happy. After years of always feeling like I was wearing the wrong thing, or wishing I looked like someone else, it’s nice to look forward to getting dressed in the morning .
*I don’t know why I didn’t tell anyone, other than I suppose the age old thing of worrying about being judged, that people would think it silly or self-indulgent, or not a “me” thing to do.